Independence (Every)Day

by Christine@TheAums on June 3, 2011 · 6 comments

Fostering independence in my four Aumies continues to be a daily parenting goal of mine. It’s simple…the more they can do for themselves, the more I can blog the more confidence they have in themselves. Teaching kids independence is not so much about giving them specific lessons or instructions. A lot of it evolves from just letting them be and not interrupting their exploration of the world around them. In the home, there are countless opportunities for kids to do for themselves on a daily basis. Perfection is not the goal, so much as determination to try and try until they “get it” with inner-satisfaction.

I’ve explained in the past about creating a clothing station for my Aumies that helps them put away their own clothes and choose their own outfits. 


Just from observing my husband and me, they became interested in hanging their clothes too. When your kids come up with an idea or plan, it’s best to let them be, observe (in case it’s unsafe), and encourage their efforts rather than squash them just because the results are not perfect or normal. For instance, not too many people in this world hang their tank tops or boxers, but Aumie #1 found a way and is quite proud of himself! 

This one is priceless!

There may come a day when hanging clothes may feel more like a chore to him, in which case he definitely takes after me, but for now, I say, “That’s awesome!”

Also, the act of getting dressed…such an opportunity to do for yourself! But also a much complained about event among my parent friends. I have no qualms whatsoever about mismatched, inside out, backwards clothing. My Aumies have, from an early age, been able to pick out their clothes (or costumes what have you) from their clothing station and attempt to dress themselves. The results might look something like this: 

20 month old!

…which again is awesome! Me pointing out that her shirt is backward and inside out would serve absolutely no purpose here. With time I know she’ll get it…which brings me to my last point…Have faith in your children and let them know that you do. I’m there for my Aumies when they need help, but there’s nothing more satisfying than letting them go through the process of trying, failing (for lack of a better word), receiving encouragement to try again despite their frustration and self-doubt, and then fiiinally getting it…ahhhh…wesome!

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Sharon at Momof6 June 3, 2011 at 11:07 pm

I wholeheartedly agree about fostering their independence! So why oh why does it conflict so sorely with my need to "do it right"? I have an unexplainable itch to help your beautiful daughter to fix her shirt….. and it's not because I care about going out in public and "what will everyone think"? I couldn't care less about that…. it's more about my own desire to do things the right way….

I SO need to get over myself! Cheers to you!!



The Aums Mama June 3, 2011 at 11:34 pm

Haha, Sharon! I have a collection of pictures that would just drive you crazy! I love to document the crazy backwards outfits they put together.


Liz @ Six Year Itch June 8, 2011 at 4:40 am

You're such a great mom! We do clothing battles in our house. I'm terrible and you're all Aummmmm let's it be. This will rub off right?


The Aums Mama June 8, 2011 at 5:27 am

Thanks, Liz! What are your clothing battles all about? I've only seen the Kid in super cute outfits. If my I play my cards right, aummmm will definitely rub off to the entire world!


Brandi June 8, 2011 at 12:40 pm

Gosh, this is so true. Ayva does a lot of things that many of her friends just don't because their parents don't think that they are ready at 2. Look, it's hard enough being a parent without stressing out about every little thing. Backwards shirt? As long as you're alive, we're good! LOL!


Yamamabad June 8, 2011 at 5:50 pm

That boxers on a hanger just kills me. I think I'm gonna try that and save some shelf space. And I may even try the backward shirt thing as well.


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